Tiffany Powers : (00:02)
Hey Nicole, thank you so much for joining me today. I’m so excited.

Nicole: (00:06)
Me Too. Thank you for having me.

Tiffany Powers : (00:09)
So I really, um, I love working with you and I’m really excited as we’re going to do some relationship coaching slash healing today and I know that you are going to start dating soon or you’re thinking about dating, right?

Nicole: (00:25)
Yeah.

Tiffany Powers : (00:25)
Yay. And you’re wanting to just make sure that you’re not bringing back like any or bringing forward any old energies from your previous relationships now in your, into your dating life.

Nicole: (00:38)
Right.

Tiffany Powers : (00:39)
What about like, also being like a very sensitive person and a very empathic, do you feel like sometimes you miss the red flags with people or it’s like, do you need to like trust yourself more? Like what you know with dating and what you’re feeling like with people you’re going out with?

Nicole: (00:55)
Um, I definitely think I need to trust myself more. Um, cause like looking back at it, I did see red flags, but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and hope that they have good intentions, but, um, yeah, I don’t trust myself.

Tiffany Powers : (01:15)
Yeah. Right, right. Yeah, yeah, because I all my, I agree. It’s the same thing. It’s like, even with me and like all, you know, the clients I’m working with, it’s like we will meet people and then there’s like a lot of good things that we’re seeing, but then we’re seeing things that are like, hmm, I don’t know about that. Or like some shady behaviors, but then, you know, we just are always kind of like seeing the possibility of what that person could be. Are we together? And we kind of like, oh, that’s no big deal. And then it’s like, oh, I guess that was a big deal, you know? Um, yeah. And what, what do you think would happen if you had more awareness or you were, I guess you do awareness. What if you could trust your awareness with your dating and what would that mean for you?

Nicole: (01:59)
I trusted my awareness, um, probably setting boundaries. Um, and actually, um, when I do see those red flags actually doing something about it versus like, just kind of pushing them to the back burner. And I think it would just, you know, open up new possibilities for, um, relationships. Like a better relationship.

Nicole: (02:25)
Yeah. Healthier one that’s more balanced. Yeah. And do you think before maybe you weren’t, um, with the red flags, like you weren’t totally, I’m listening to them. Do you think it was like a self esteem thing? Self love? Was that part of it too at the time?

Nicole: (02:40)
Oh yeah, for sure.

Tiffany Powers : (02:42)
Yeah. Yeah. I think it’s super important for women, like when they’re going back into dating that they really work on themselves and just make sure that they’re in a space of like self love because it, I just feel like if we’re not loving ourselves, then we’re more prone to like settle for less. And I’ve done that so many times. I’m like, what was I thinking? And it’s like, oh, I didn’t love myself then. That makes sense. Um, yeah. And then also too, it’s like, because you’ve been working on yourself, it’s like you’re more likely to have someone that loves themselves. And also because you’re putting that energy out there, it’s like you’re going to draw in somebody that might want to work on themselves or it’s like maybe they’re motivated, maybe they are okay with going with it and just, you know, maybe not doing traditional hearing work, but maybe they’re into like bettering themselves or something like that.

Nicole: (03:26)
Right.

Tiffany Powers : (03:27)
I love that. Yeah. So, okay, so you’re, so I think that that’s awesome. Can I do some like downloads on you just to like make sure that you’re trusting yourself? Is that okay with you?

Nicole: (03:36)
Yeah.

Tiffany Powers : (03:37)
Okay. I think that’d be good. So I’m go ahead and just close your eyes, relax your body. And I just want to teach your body how and what it feels like to trust yourself and also what it’s like to have awareness on red flags on people and that you can ask questions when you’re dating, um, of the person, but also of your intuition that you’re able to get really clear information about the people that you’re dating. Are you okay with that?

Nicole: (04:02)
Yes.

Tiffany Powers : (04:03)
Okay. Awesome. Yay. Okay, good. And then, um, and yeah, and just another thing you can do, you can open your eyes to go. Another thing you can do is muscle testing people like when you’re dating, even if, how do you usually date? Is the online dating or is in person?

Nicole: (04:18)
Um, I did a little bit of both. My most recent one was um, in person.

Tiffany Powers : (04:25)
Okay, cool.

Nicole: (04:25)
Met through like a mutual friend.

Tiffany Powers : (04:27)
Oh Nice. Nice. So you can also like even before you go out with them, you can test them, muscle test them and just see if their energy is vibing with yours or like it’s in the highest and best for me to go on the state with so and so. And just see if you’re getting a yes or no. Um, cause if it’s a no, it’s like definitely don’t. But sometimes a yes can mean maybe they’re not the one you’re going to end up with it, but it could mean that you’re going on that date can be beneficial to like learning something for your love life or something like that.

Nicole: (04:53)
Okay.

Tiffany Powers : (04:54)
They might want to do that cause I can save a lot of time. Cause like with online dating, oh my God, there’s so many. I’m sure your inbox will be full.

Nicole: (05:02)
Uh, yeah it was. And it was kind of funny just reading them. So that’s why I stayed on it for awhile. But yeah.

Tiffany Powers : (05:08)
Yeah, I did that. You’d be like, okay, I’ve got 500 messages.

Tiffany Powers : (05:13)
Um, but yeah, I would try to muscle testing and just, um, and also another thing, a tool that you can use is, um, you can say, you know, show me what it would look like if I dated blank or show me what it would look like if I was in a relationship with blank. And you can ask those questions as well as, um, can you show me if this person has any blockages or anything that’s holding them back.

Nicole: (05:38)
Okay.

Tiffany Powers : (05:38)
And just kind of getting more information and then that can kind of, it’s like you might be getting a sense, oh, okay. So and so has trust issues because their ex cheated on them. So, uh, okay. Let me be mindful of that. We’ll need to see that. Something I want to get into like in a relationship with, you know, just, you know what I mean? Cause you’re super intuitive to be able to get a lot of information.

Nicole: (05:56)
Yeah. Okay.

Tiffany Powers : (05:58)
Yeah. What pattern are you scared to bring forward?

Nicole: (06:03)
Um, just the, the not setting boundaries cause I, I find that struggle. Um, and just like people pleasing cause um, like growing up, like that’s what I had to do a lot of. So I kind of brought that into my relationships. So, um, I feel like I’m doing better, but I definitely don’t want to, you know, keep bringing it along.

Tiffany Powers : (06:29)
Yeah. Yeah. Well and is it more like you’re putting other people before your, your needs are putting before yours?

Nicole: (06:37)
Yeah.

Tiffany Powers : (06:38)
Oh yeah. Yeah. Totally. Yeah. And like if we’ve ever gone through trauma and the past or had experiences where somebody made us feel like our needs were not important, then sometimes even hard for us to ask for what we need. Like we just feel weird saying I need this or even telling ourselves I need this or whatever. It’s just like, it’s like a weird concept to us because we’re used to always like focusing on somebody else or putting them before us. Um, so yeah, we can, I can, I would love to do some also downloads for this to help you with this as well. Um, and I would like to release you from people pleasing if you’re okay with that too.

Nicole: (07:09)
Yeah.

Tiffany Powers : (07:09)
I’m like, please, you don’t need to do things because it feels good to you. It feels light to you, but not where you have to do it. Like where you’re sacrificing yourself.

Nicole: (07:21)
Right.

Tiffany Powers : (07:21)
You’re obligated because that’s where it’s like that. So, um, okay. So let me, I would like to download you that you can say back is that you can set boundaries, that you can say no, that you can ask for what you want and what that looks like, what that feels like, what that is. Are you okay with that?

Nicole: (07:35)
Yes.

Tiffany Powers : (07:36)
Okay. And then I would like to show you what it’s like to be in a relationship where you can ask for what you need and that your, what you need in the relationship is just as important as what the other person needs and that you no longer have to sacrifice yourself for other people, for your relationships. And it’s safe for you to choose yourself and the other person and to have more of a balance in your relationships. Are you okay with that?

Nicole: (08:03)
Yes.

Tiffany Powers : (08:04)
Also, can I release you of having to be with men have like issues that there that are unresolved. Are you okay with that?

Nicole: (08:12)
yes.

Tiffany Powers : (08:13)
Okay. So all that, your karmic learning patterns where it’s like you have to be with men that have unresolved issues that they need to heal and they’re expecting me to heal these issues. The karmic ties are over, it’s done, it’s completed. And I would like to download your body with what it feels like, what it’s like to be with someone who is working on themselves, who was healing themselves without you having to kill them. Are you okay with that?

Nicole: (08:36)
Yes.

Tiffany Powers : (08:37)
Perfect. Okay. And then just want to take a moment, just initialize with your eyes closed. This relationship where you’re with someone, you can communicate with them, you can have an amazing deep relationship with this person. There’s boundaries. Like you can have self care time, um, they care about your needs and vice versa. And it’s just more balanced and there’s no drama in it. You don’t have to fix them, you don’t have to heal. And if he has an issue, he works on it. And let me know how that, how does that feel to you?

Nicole: (09:07)
It feels nice. Happy. Does it, could it exist? Possibly. Yeah.

Tiffany Powers : (09:14)
Yeah. Yeah. I love that. Yeah. Um, you can open your eyes down. Good. I love it. Yeah. I feel like your body’s like, okay, I think I can do this.

Nicole: (09:23)
Yeah. I, I think I’m ready. Um, this time

Tiffany Powers : (09:30)
you’re ready. Yeah. And just, yeah, I’m just being mindful cause it’s like we as emphatic women definitely attract narcissists and men that are all about themselves. And um, just be mindful of that. And also like, if it’s a, you know, everybody’s gone through stuff. It’s not like we can be with someone and be like, okay, I want a man with no issues at all. He’s never been through anything. It’s like everybody has been right. But their willingness to work through it on some level and there’s a variety of different ways that they can. But for us women that are intuitive that, you know, we’re emphatic were healer women. Um, it’s almost like extremely important that the personal with is willing to work on themselves because we’re always evolving and growing into something else. And if not, I find that like a lot of women will hold themselves back for the man that there with, um, cause a man’s not comfortable, doesn’t want to shift. Um, or they just ended up getting really pissed off and frustrated because it’s like they’re growing but the guy there with this not, and it’s like stunting their relationships. So when you’re doing your manifesting for love, I would definitely put out there someone that’s willing to grow with you and work through stuff too.

Nicole: (10:36)
Okay.

Tiffany Powers : (10:38)
Yeah. It’ll save a lot of stress. Yeah. Yeah. Because what happens when guys don’t want to work on things. Oh my God, it’s no Bueno. Um, I love this. Yeah. So this, this sounds really good. So when you think about it, do you feel like you’re ready to start trusting yourself and moving forward and just stepping into this new energy for yourself?

Nicole: (11:00)
Yeah, I definitely do. Um, I feel like, uh, a shift, like a change in who I am as a person. Um, and you know, also like as far as being in like the not so good relationships, I feel like that has helped me grow and you know, evolve and become more, um, like love myself more. So, um, I definitely think that that’s a good thing and to start a new relationship,

Tiffany Powers : (11:29)
So, it’s good. Yeah. I would have like peace with your past and to be able to see it as a gift, like that’s so big and I, yeah, I totally think you’re there and that’s when you’re really at a higher vibration when it’s like, it’s not making you mad at me more. It’s not making you sad. It’s like, I can see what it was. It’s a gift, you know, this person was a gift to me and I’m moving forward. But yeah, it’s really good. And even the really bad guys, it’s like they’re teaching us what we don’t want.

Nicole: (11:53)
exactly.

Tiffany Powers : (11:55)
Yeah. I love that. Awesome. Yay. I’m so excited. Yeah. And I would recommend, I like you’re ready to, but I recommend, did you ever make like a soulmate list or anything like that?

Nicole: (12:04)
Um, I did, but I think I need to update it,

Tiffany Powers : (12:07)
yes, update it and just, Oh yeah. Just and just make sure that you’re, you know, communication with you and um, you know, things like that, uh, during giver because you’re such a giver, so you really need going to give to you and whatever. You just meditate at whatever’s coming to you. And then also the beloved reiki candles are amazing. So did you ever get one of those before?

Nicole: (12:29)
Oh yeah. I bought one few weeks ago in Sedona, so I have that.

Tiffany Powers : (12:33)
Yay. Okay. So it’s ready to go.

Nicole: (12:36)
Yes.

Tiffany Powers : (12:38)
I’m so excited. So, yeah, right. You’re listening. Have Your candle and I and the candles have like a little cute like prayer thing on it or affirmation, which is really nice. And then it’ll just kind of help to bring this person in. But I feel like you’re ready. Like, and I definitely see somebody coming in for you. I see a couple people coming in for you is more than one. We’ll probably, I’m going to see at least three or more coming in. So you probably have like a lot of interests, but just use your intuition to select who you want to be with.

Nicole: (13:05)
Okay. Got It. So like the muscle testing

Tiffany Powers : (13:10)
Oh, another thing too, you could put in there, um, if you want someone that is going to help you with your business in some way, that might be good too.

Nicole: (13:18)
That’s a good idea.

Tiffany Powers : (13:19)
Like support and help you and love that you’re working on your business stuff or something like that.

Nicole: (13:25)
Okay. That’s a good one. I didn’t even think about that.

Tiffany Powers : (13:28)
Yeah. And also too, um, like maybe he’s an entrepreneur. Like you could put, like you’re looking for someone that could be an entrepreneur because that can be really good too. They can help us. So like learn a lot if we’re starting your own businesses. So just saying it might be cool. Interesting. Yeah. I’m so excited for you. Awesome. Well, thank you so much for working with me today and I’m, I’m excited to see this man that’s going to be coming in, which will not be that far off.

Nicole: (13:55)
Um, thank you. I, I think you,

Tiffany Powers : (13:59)
I’m so excited bye sweetie.

Nicole: (14:01)
Bye